What-a-Day_SMFH

You know what i hate? When parents tell you that when they were our age they have been through the same situation, been through the same problems and phases. If they have, why dont they

understand?

I am at the age group where we like to party and have fun to drown away these inner

emotions and have a difficult relationship with our parents. All i want to do is hang out with my friends. I mean why do they have to complain? Im in school, i have a good job and i will be moving out very soon? BUT WHY DO MY PARENTS STILL HAVE TO RUIN MY LIFE AND OTHERS?!?!?!

I have to be totally honest, i have done stupid things in my life but i wasnt a horrible child! i dont rob people, start random fights, i dont get into trouble and such. my father is a detective but why does he treat me like im one of the criminals he locks up? when we have a talk about these problems and i tell him my feelings he cuts me off and tells me im wrong. WTF? REALLY?! what i feel deep inside is suppsoedly wrong?! how does that make any sense?

A few weeks ago my family went to Pennsylvania for the weekend while i stayed home because of work. Being the 20 year old young adult i am i decided to throw a party. Yes it was very stupid and irresponsible of me but i thought i could get away with it. Did we have a fun time? HELLZ FRICKIN YES?!?!?! Played four loko pong on my ping pong table in the garage, dancing, just being loud and obnoxious as we can because we were all together having fun. This night also proved that we were good friends and trustworthy of each other. A friend of mine started vomitting everywhere and falling and breaking stuff. He was out of control but we managed to get him home safe even though we were twisted and the cops were watching us lolz!

We all managed to get home safe and we stayed in contact to make sure we did. The next day i had a lot of cleaning and i managed to do it but only 1 problem. The frickin porch smelt like vomit. I did my best to get it covered but it was no use. The thing is our porch is covered in a green thin carpet so its not easy to remove the stain. Plus i had work so I didnt have much time to power wash it. When they cam back they saw it and kicked me out. BUT thats not thend of it!!! They decided to bring others down with me.

DID THEY REALLY? Like why did they do that? It was between us and now some of my closest people have to suffer. Well i am moving very soon to my apartment so i dont have to deal with them.

What-a-Day_Family

This blog entry is something thats been bothering me for a very loss ass time. What is the definition of family. We all know what "family" means from the dictionary, but every "family" has a different meaning. Let me tell you about my family situation.

My parents does not associate with their family members as much. On my fathers side, they are a little ghetto because they grew up in the projects and my father was the youngest. He had to fend for himself and started working at the age of 11. Ever since he became a cop (now detective), people always asked him for help, especially his family. He still keeps himself neutral with them but we dont go to their house anymore for small get together or even on certain holidays which is sad.

On my mothers side is a little more complicated. My mom is also the youngest in her family growing up in the Philippines. But unlike my father, she was the baby to my grandparents. She and her siblings tend to argue a lot. Because of that one day at my aunts apartment, me and my cousin Glen was just playing ( we were like 12 or something) and a huge argument broke out. My mom and her sister stopped talking and as the years go by eventually she turns her back on all of her brothers and sister. Due to the fact of this event, I am not able to chill with my cousins.

Now as a "family" we chill with my mom's friends on holidays and on weekends instead of our "family". I still chill with Glen, but i have to lie about it. When they hear his name, all they think is him getting high off weed and call him a bad influence. He doesnt do it as much anymore and he is really not a bad person. He really cares for his family and would go out of his way to help out. Even my aunts and uncles want things back to normal but my parents just dont wanna bother trying. This is the reason I am who I am. I stay in my room minding my own and when im off from work I go out. They say I have to stay with the family and do family things. Meanwhile they just watch tv when we have nothing to do and all they do is point out the negatives about me.

What kind of "family" is this? When i think of family, I think of having fun with the individual fam with aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins just chilling and laughing and such. But now if I hang with my cousin, who is not considered family, I get in trouble. Its not easy telling someone you grew up with and say "Sorry man, it's over. We can't chill.". NO, NEVER!!!!!! He is family, he is a BLOOD relative. He always had my back and i had his. Same goes with my other cousins and aunts and uncles. They are blood relatives, there for its "family".

The funny thing is my parents always said "Your friends arent always gonna be there for you, your family will.". Does that make sense to you? I find it kind of hypocritical.

Tell me what you think "family" means to you and let me know about how your family works.

What-a-Day_Making the Band

i bet almost every kid growing up at one point wanted to do something involving music. i mean who wouldnt? the fame, the glory, and of course the skills to show off. this is a dream of mine till today (man i dream alot, lol)

right now i only have a gibson acoustic guitar, but if i want to be in a band i want to play the bass guitar. but when im alone in my room, i want to be able to write some songs with a ukulele like my friend ingrid michealson.

heres a list of bands and artists i listen to that you should really check out:
(not in any order)

1. Kings of Leon
2. Minus the Bear
3. Ingrid Michealson
4. Regina Spektor

5. Foals

6. Kid Cudi
7. Outasight
8. LMFAO
9. Paramore
10. Gorillaz

these are mostly the artists where i listen to there whole entire album instead of just downloading singles by other artists.

when it comes to music, lyrics and the intro is really important to me. if you have a song with a catchy intro that can set a mood then back it up with moving, funny or kick-ass lyrics, you have my ear. this is why these are the artists i picked for you to check out.

if anyone is selling an electric bass guitar, hit me up on facebook or just comment plz^^

What-a-Day_Roadtrip

Growing up i had many dreams, but one dream never changed. to be able to have at least one month of no worries or stress. to be able to be on the road to a destination like cali. but not just goin to california, the journey itself. takin pictures and video with an hd flip cam. building memories with a group of friends.

just the thought of laying in a motel sharing a cheap ass rooms with a bunch of dudes sounds so..... gay, but it can be fun (still sounds gay). quick wisdom "being in a 2 star hotel with friends, the stars dont mean anything". that was a line from the song 'absinthe party at the fly honey warehouse' by Minus the Bear. it wasnt the exact line but its kinda close.

With pounds of weed and blunts, getting high every hour is a dream for my cousin glen who is now writing this paragraph. he wants a cross country road trip starting phildephia because he always wanted to try those famous philly cheesesteaks. Oh and Rutgers for their famous grease trucks starring the fat bitch sandwhich which was cheesesteak with chicken fingers, mozarella sticks and frenchfries with a load of cheese. then finish with a visit california to visit my family and smoke their finest kush.

so yea thats his idea of a road trip. always thinking of weed and food, lol. but with every state that we drive into i want to take a few pics and video to show where we've thru. i want to be able to say "yea, i've been there already", ya know wat i mean. honestly, i dont know how much money we'll need but i think we might need to really start saving a lot of dough lol. this spring break a friend wants to drive down to florida and have fun in the sun. *sigh* only problem for me is that im still on probation at my job and i cant have any vacation yet :( but i can still dream, right? and its not one of those dreams thats basically impossible to accomplish. it will definately happen, its just a matter of when and everyone having their share of cash.

so let me know if you have ever been on a roadtrip or if you dream of going on one like me. where did you go? who went with you? what did you do?

What-a-Day_Love

So today i will be talking about something that's been on my mind all day, Love. I dont want to sound cheesy here but just bear with me ( i dont know if i used the right version of bear for that sentence lol). when it comes to relationships, i am real sucker. I go all out for my lady. I would buy her anything and say things to make her blush. Which is good but very bad.

so im here to give a little bit advice and a few experiences. Experiences of my own and a few anonymous friends. If your a guy reading this, please think about the next word, chivalry. what is chivalry??

chivalry- The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women.

WHAT HAPPENED TO IT???!!! its soooo upsetting for me to hear stories of women being abused emotionally and physically by their spouse or cheating on them with an ex or friend. i have been in a few relationships, some lasting then others. but i never ever cheated on her or mistreated her. i may have spoiled at times but its to show that i care for her and her only. And if your a guy with a girl and decided to go back to your ex, you're stupid. Why do you think they are called an ex? You're just going to break up again, and if you 2 decided to marry, a divorce is right around the corner. And to the person that was left behind, dont worry about that jerk. you'll find someone much more deserving of you. Like my friend Ray William Johnson always says "Move the FUCK on!!!" ( you should check out his youtube channel and subscribe http://www.youtube.com/user/raywilliamjohnson?blend=1&ob=4 )

Love should never be trifled with. Its a small word with a powerful meaning that people look at to separate them from this sad and cruel world, like me. What i mean is im talking to someone i really like and i hope it lasts for the rest of my life, im just saying. im not gonna say her name but only a few would know who im talking about lol. But yeah, im a type of guy that wants to share all these memories with someone that will be with me for who i am and the things i do. im not trying to say i need to be with someone to be happy because i dont just go on dates with random girls. im not like that, there has to be a reason why i like you from the start.

I also learned from a friend of mine new album "Everybody" by Ingrid Michealson. From her single 'Are we there yet', she says that your not somebody unless you make somebody somebody. I know it may not make sense reading it but say it out loud slowly or listen to her song, its very good. So i hope i can make this girl somebody, man im so lame and cheesy lol.

So anyone who reads this blog, please comment and tell me what your version of what loves is, or if you have any advice let me give you a little bit of my wisdom and hopefully it can help you. it doesnt to be relationship advice only, it can be anything. thank you^^

What-a-Day_R.I.P

I know this is only my second blog but too many things happened at once in the past 2 days and this one has to be a little emotional. Things always start off good but later things have to balance out. The darkness is always right around the corner. What im trying to say is when things start goin your way, be prepared for the worst.

This morning i was informed someone very close to the family has passed away. At my job im always surrounded by death, but i still get emotional even tho i don know the family. I wanna send my regards to Ate Nem Nem's family. Even though i didnt really know you, i will still miss you whole-heartedly. i will miss that smile when we greet each other. you are a very sweet person and can make any sad person happy just by smiling. And Tobias (her fiancee) if your reading this, im soo sorry and i am here if you ever need someone to talk to. May you rest in peace Ate Nem Nem, we'll be thinking of you. Mahal Kita!!!

Which brings up today's topic. What do you do after a friend or family member pass away?

Me i tend to either stay by myself in a room and talk about my problems and feelings to the person i love (you know who you are!!) or i go out with some friends and just chill. Today i did both, but even though at the moment you forget about the loss, at the end it'll just pop up. This is why im typing this blog. I work in a hospital and i tell myself everyday that i never ever want to see anyone i love and care for here ( except my mom cause she works there, she help me get through the day knowing if shes working).

What-a-Day_Asian Parents

So welcome to my first blog. First i would like to introduce myself, my name is Brian Cofano. Im 19 years old, i work as a housekeeper at a hospital and will be going back to school. Ill talk more about myself at another blog entry but today i wanna talk about my day so far cause alot of things going in my mind.

Well i just started working as a housekeeper. its been about a month now and im makin pretty decent money now since i still live with my parents. things been lookin up from there. able to pay off the money i owe the bank, finally payed my phone bill and started talkin to this girl i like. but it always has to end with my frickin asian mom yellin at me.

always tellin me that i dont do anything around the house meanwhile the night before i did 4 baskets of laundry. FOUR BASKETS!!!!!! i hate it, i did alot of things the past week to help me with my future. i frickin pay bills, have a job where i clean for 7 hours and going back to school. how can you say im irresponsible?! and the stupid thing is she tells me i cant stay in my room, i have to chill with the family. but when im pissed i wanna be alone. ive been trying to write a song and she still yells at me, gawd. its a good thing im only half asian. i don know how you full asians do it.

but the only thing thats getting me thru this day is that im talking to this girl that i really like. again ill save that for another blog.

Oh, and another thing. Purchase the new Gorillaz album "Plastic Beach" on March 9. Its gonna be mad dope.